Type 6 is sometimes nicknamed The Loyalist. Sixes have a core desire for stability, safety, and certainty, while they fear being abandoned and left without guidance. Sixes take this desire for stability in relationships and reflect it back onto others - they are committed to being loyal, stable, and trustworthy. They provide stability to their people.

This passion for learning and knowledge makes sense, as Type Five is a Head Type along with Types 6 and 7. Thinking is always first for Fives, before feeling and doing. Their challenge in relationships is to connect with others on a heart level. This isn’t natural for Fives so it does take intention.  When a Five does try to connect with you personally, know that it means they trust you, and they’re giving you something rare.

Type Fours value authenticity. What’s the point if we’re not being real? This is the gift they offer relationships - and what they hope for from others. This means bringing their authentic emotions and experiences to the table, without a lot of the filtering that other types may do. 

Threes bring their deep attunement to others to relationships. They can easily deduce what the  other person, or people, want and need. Since Threes are so incredibly adaptable, they can morph into what they think is needed in the relationship. Similar to how a Type Nine struggles to know what they want and instead easily merges with the other person, a Type Three struggles to  know what they truly want because they spend so much energy turning themselves into the person they think the other wants.

Twos see the world in terms of their relationships. When they make decisions, they first consider how it will affect all the other people involved. In organizations, Twos help make sure all the relationships at stake are considered in big decisions. Twos prioritize thinking of others and are gifted at understanding how each action a will affect other people.

Remember that the Enneagram shows us one of nine lenses. We tend to assume that other people see the world how we do. So, Ones assume this: everybody else  wants to follow the rules, be good, do things the right way, and follow a strong moral compass… right??!!!